{"id":1586,"date":"2015-02-21T04:26:00","date_gmt":"2015-02-21T09:26:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lauraheselton.com\/?p=1586"},"modified":"2016-03-19T01:17:48","modified_gmt":"2016-03-19T00:17:48","slug":"relationships-button-pushers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lauraheselton.com\/blog\/relationships-button-pushers\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationships: Are “Button Pushers” Really Catalysts for Inner Change?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"admin-ajax_web\"<\/a>I love this topic! Because it’s true, there are some people who get right under your skin and the mere mention of their name has you tensing up. There is usually a pattern of negative behaviour with this person and it\u00a0always is an exhausting history.<\/p>\n

Are YOU ready to take steps to change this dynamic and reach a better you?\u00a0 Let\u2019s make 2015 a win\/win year for you\u00a0and the people who push your buttons. Sound impossible? Its not. Let\u2019s start with\u00a0you. Here\u2019s your\u00a0ah ha moment, and the big shift that will make your world smoother: the change comes from within you. You can\u2019t change another person but you\u00a0CAN modify how you \u2018perceive\u2019 them and react to them to make your life\u00a0more effective.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how it works, for the moment you are Sam, Managing Director of a\u00a0large insurance company. Your CFO Dorothy, who has the habit of blaming\u00a0others for her errors, claims the bid \u2018you’ made to buy a smaller insurance\u00a0company is full of costly errors. Each point she addresses is financial\u00a0issues she failed to mention during previous negotiations. Why didn\u2019t she\u00a0address these issues earlier? You ask if the contract can be revised?\u00a0She says no, not the way \u201cyou\u201d worded it. Now, she wrote the contract and\u00a0you signed it. As CFO it\u2019s clearly her job to protect the company\u2019s\u00a0financials. Her inability to address important issues until too late really\u00a0upsets you as well as the fact that as leader, you\u2019ve let the company\u00a0become vulnerable. So how do you move forward, resolve the issues at\u00a0hand quickly and smoothly?<\/p>\n

Now is the perfect time to look at you, Sam. Yes, a huge fight with Dorothy\u00a0is a reactionary response, but there are other options. Could this be a moment where you choose to lead with wisdom and integrity and not\u00a0react? What action brings the best version of yourself and serves the\u00a0highest good for the company?<\/p>\n

My argument is that Dorothy, and all Dorothy-types, are catalysts to bring\u00a0the best version of ourselves forward. It’s a challenge, but the prompt to\u00a0dig deep and lead with wisdom and integrity is a great life lesson.<\/p>\n

Now, your perception changes and so does the situation. You control\u00a0the outcome and lead the team to a positive solution. Perhaps even\u00a0Dorothy gets neutralized. No guarantees about the Dorothy shift, but now\u00a0you realize that you have option to lead with wisdom and integrity\u00a0and this higher level behaviour can become a pattern for you instead of\u00a0reacting..<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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