Are you as clear of what your mission is in life, as this incredible young lady, Nada Al-Ahdai from Yemen?
Has your life defining moment arrived or have you found your “it”, your life purpose? If not, watch this and be inspired. https://www.facebook.com/amrhamedtaher/videos/10154093091424901/?pnref=story
Now – stop and ask yourself , what trajectory are you on? What about your personal life choices; like your relationship with your partner or potential partner or even a boss? Has anyone stopped to tell you that it’s ….
Your core values that determine that relationship’s success?
There is nothing wrong with marriage, a marriage isn’t broken or dysfunctional, it’s how the people in them are functioning. They are the ones who bring their programs and their values with them that potentially spark conflict. Look at little Nada and the value behind what she believes is right for her and what a culture is trying to impose on her. Again, marriage isn’t the problem, it’s the values behind the people being brought together. What begs to be asked is simple.
Are their core values in harmony or not?
Looking at what core values you and your partner have and then which ones each of you hold dear, is a great first conversation. Even if it’s 30 years into the union! Never to late to start unscrambling what gets you in trouble in the first place, the root cause; your core values.
Talking about what values are not only important to you, but which ones are ‘THE’ most important to each of you, can facilitate a HUGE and POWERFUL instant change in the relationship’s dynamic. You’ll soon discover that each person may feel stronger about different values and be better at fulfilling one or another.
Take Nada for example, one of her core values, is of each human being equal.
She’s a woman who believes she has as much of a right to say what is acceptable in the way of, when to get married, who to get married to and what kind of age is appropriate for her for a sexual expression in the relationship. Her family has her meeting a man, who believes, like they do, that a man has the right to call the shots.
Take Nada for example, one of her core values, is of each human being equal.
She’s a woman who believes she has as much of a right to say what is acceptable in the way of, when to get married, who to get married to and what kind of age is appropriate for her for a sexual expression in the relationship. Her family has her meeting a man, who believes, like they do, that a man has the right to call the shots.
Equality is not the value he or they are operating from. Naturally, it’s a disaster …
and there is outrage on both sides. There is no coherence in their core values. It’s bound to cause conflict.
The message here is, it’s never too soon to stop and have a good look at what is really going on behind the scenes in your own relationships, personal or professional. It’s one thing to look at this obvious and public outcry against this total conflict in core values, but how about yours? What is eating away at your relationships?Is there something you came here to examine and grow from?
And by the way, growth is one of the 8 human core values! If you would like to know more about the
8 MAKE OR BREAK RELATIONSHIP CORE VALUES
to perhaps ‘grow’ a bit yourself, email me at: info@lauraheselton.com to begin the process of ravelling the secret to “happily ever after”.
